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Sent: Saturday, February 14, 2004 11:01 AM
Subject: [Foroprofesoral] Para las esposas!!
Why Men Don't Want to Talk at Night
What IS he thinking? After a hard day, he's thinking he'd rather surf with
the TV remote than talk to his lady love. And don't nag him about the
shoes he dropped on the family room floor or the clothes he left
bedroom floor. He doesn't even notice them.
That's the word from social
philosopher and author Michael Gurian, who
claims that men are not lazy,
sexist, or pigheaded. Instead, the male psyche
is radically different than
the female psyche due to distinct and profound
biological differences in
Drawing on two decades of neurobiological research, as well as
from everyday life, Gurian reveals the deepest secrets of
the male mind in his
new book, "What Could He Be Thinking? How a
Man's Mind Really Works."
While culture is important, Gurian
maintains that the biological differences in
the male and female
brains explain just about everything that puzzles
women about the
It explains why he won't let go of the TV remote.
It explains why he thinks mowing the yard is more important than
It explains why it's difficult for
him to talk when he gets angry.
It explains why he can remember all
the pitchers' names and World Series
scores, but not the conversation
you had with him yesterday.
It explains why he puts so much of his
identity into his work.
It explains why romance isn't as important to
him as it is to you.
It explains why he won't talk to you at night.
This is the big difference that explains it all: The male brain
secretes less of
the powerful primary bonding chemical oxytocin and
less of the calming
chemical serotonin than the female brain.
Instead, the male hormones that
bathe the brain are testosterone and
vasopressin, which make him seek
competitive, hierarchical groups to
prove his self-worth and identity.
What does that mean in practical
terms? While women find it relaxing at the
end of a hard day to get
involved in an emotional, touchy-feely conversation, the
just wants to zone out. And what better way to do this than use the
TV remote control to mindlessly surf from channel to channel. "The science has
been crucial. Wherever I go, I start by showing PET scans and people
for themselves the differences between the male and female
brain," Gurian told
Reuters. "I think that alters life and
He dares to suggest that men will never be able to meet all of women's
expectations. "Popular culture focuses so much on trying to get
Most people believe that marriages break up because
men and women are not
close enough. But what I am learning about the
brain leads to the idea of
intimate separateness, in which the brain
seeks less intimacy at times."
Here's the takeaway, ladies: Instead
of asking, "What IS he thinking?" you
should be asking, "What COULD
he be thinking?" Just don't ask him that
question at night.
Get it from Amazon.com: "What Could He Be Thinking? How a Man's Mind
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